Getting married is undoubtedly the dream of every single lady, but when this dream is achieved, the idea of remaining attractive to their husband becomes the least in their priority. Consequently, the force of attraction between both diminishes with time, and in most cases, their men often turn to ladies outside for sexual satisfaction.
Many of these ladies start complaining that their husbands don’t compliment them anymore after 2 to 3 years of marriage. But they fail to realize that men are first moved by their sense of vision. When your husband was just your boyfriend and you were eager to impress him, you spent hours debating what to wear for a date. You simply wanted to look your best and nothing less would do. And when he appreciated the effort and complimented you, it was well worth it.
Now that you are married, you no longer seem to give priority to what you put on, or how you dress for any event simply because you often get caught up with juggling household responsibilities and a career. Retaining your allure for your partner and continuing to be attractive to him isn’t only about your physical appearance. It goes beyond that. Read on for ten ways to be more attractive to your husband…
- Show that you care
Every single day, in some small way, show your husband just how much he means to you. Tell him you love him, when he’s sick, take care of him like a little child, pack his lunchbox, hug him often and kiss him like you can’t get enough. Knowing that and feeling like he’s the object of your affection will make him feel like a king and want to always have you as his queen.
- His happiness is important
When a woman indicates to her husband that his happiness is of paramount importance to her, it makes him feel very lucky to have her in his life. Having a surprise party on his birthday, cooking his favorite meals, buying him tickets to his favorite rock show, or even buying a gift for his mother (even if you don’t get along) because his happiness is what matters to you, only serves to make a woman more attractive to her husband.
- Find humor/ laugh together
Laughter, as always, keeps a relationship alive. If a woman has the ability to find humor in everyday situations and can share a few laughs with her partner, it goes a long way towards retaining the spark in a relationship and increasing her allure to her partner.
- Share interests
Instead of nagging him endlessly about tinkering around with electrical gadgets or wondering what is so fascinating about that dumb soccer match – join him in his fun. Show an interest in things that fascinate him, so that he wants to share them with you and doesn’t have to feel guilty about his passions, but can enjoy them with unadulterated pleasure. Quite often, when it comes to their passions, men are little boys in big bodies. And just like kids, they have to be given a little attention and should be pandered to occasionally.
- Make the first move
Don’t always wait for him to initiate sex. Tease and tantalize him and make the first move every little while. Your partner is probably preoccupied with boardroom tactics so it’s about time you took over the bedroom maneuvers.
- Take care of your appearance
Spend a little time – and money – on taking care of your appearance. We’re not talking cosmetic surgery here. Just a little pampering and beauty treatment. Shape your eyebrows or get a facial, a French manicure or a bikini line wax (or even a Brazilian one if you’re feeling adventurous). Don’t feel guilty for spending on yourself occasionally and that you have to justify it. Feeling good about yourself and having your husband’s full attention on you is reason enough! You can get beauty products of major brand names like Revlon and Estee Laudor at a substantial discount online.
- Buy something just for him
Occasionally buy a sexy negligee or a frothy bit of lingerie and let him know you did it with him in mind. It will serve the dual purpose of stimulating his visual (and other) senses, and make him happy knowing you did it just for him.
- Maintain yourself
If you can, follow some kind of a fitness regime. It doesn’t have to be rigorous exercise, or if you can’t make the time for it, even the gym. Try and carve out at least 20-30 minutes for a brisk walk that will rejuvenate your senses and keep you in shape. You don’t have to look the way you did when you married him, he won’t mind a little more of you to love, but you can try and ensure you don’t just let yourself go.
If you can’t make the time to exercise, try and maintain a healthy diet and cut back on a few calories. Maintaining yourself physically also contributes to your mental health, sense of self-esteem and even to a more active sex life, which is equally important in a good marriage.
- Ask for his opinion
When you’re buying an outfit or debating on what to wear, get his consent on it. Let him realize that you value his opinion and would like to wear something that pleases him. Pander to his taste and cater to his little fancies, at least once in a while, and he will reward you with an admiring glance and an approving smile.
- Don’t get complacent
Finally, you should avoid getting too laidback and lounge around all day in pajamas or a nightie look. That doesn’t mean you have to perform household duties looking like a glam doll. Before you get caught up with the chores of the day or sprucing up the house, take some time to freshen up and make yourself feel good. If you’re a stay-at-home mom, don’t greet your husband, when he comes home, with your youngest kid’s spit-up decorating your blouse. Take the time to shower and look fresh for him when he comes home to you.